There is a difference between knowing how to kiss, and knowing how to kiss well. And we are talking about how to kiss on lips, and not those cute and friendly pecks on the cheek.
Kissing can be an art, and like most other disciplines, you can either be a great kisser, or totally suck at it. Well, if you are looking to master the art of kissing passionately, you have come to the right place. This site will teach you everything you need to know about kissing. Right from learning how to kiss for the first time, to getting comfortable doing it – there are step-by-step instructions with detailed illustrations and videos.
While we understand that kissing is a spontaneous act and nothing can fully prepare someone for a kiss, this site aims to explain the ingredients of a good kiss and hopefully educate you on kissing do’s and don’ts.
And while we are on this topic here, before we begin, I would like to get the customary disclaimer out of place. I am not an expert on kissing by any means and the information on this website is based on a good deal of serious research and a result of several years of, well, good kissing! Alright, so let’s get started.
Here’s a fun video that shows exactly how to kiss!
Kissing is good for your health, really? Okay, you probably won’t ever hear your doctor advice you something along the lines of taking two kisses a day every day, one in the morning, one at night. Nevertheless, there are definite benefits to kissing that you probably weren’t aware of.
The health benefits of kissing have already been documented in several studies and the medical fraternity has established that kissing is related to a long and healthy life. Here we present the top 10 facts why kissing is good for your health.
Partners who kiss each other good-bye every morning increase their life expectancy by 5 years as compared to those who don’t.
Kissing is a confidence booster. It helps add to your self-esteem and makes you feel loved and appreciated, thereby enhancing your state of mind.
Kissing is known to increase your body metabolism and it has been established that kissing helps burn calories faster (at the rate of about 3 calories per minute while kissing). In fact, studies claim that 3 passionate kisses a day, each kiss lasting 20 seconds on an average, can help shed a whole pound! Well, time to get started on that kiss diets already.
Kissing is a stress-buster. Kissing passionately helps you relieve tension, eliminate the negative energies surrounding you and decrease the levels of cortisol ‘stress’ hormone.
Kissing requires using at least 30 facial muscles at the same time helping them get their exercise! This keeps your facial muscles tighter, and ward off premature baggy cheeks. Passionate kissing creates tension in the muscles, thus helping keep them smooth and also increases blood circulation in the face.
Kissing is also good for the heart as it helps release of the hormone adrenaline. Adrenaline causes your heart to pump faster, thereby increasing the flow of blood to body parts. Frequent kissers are proven to possess a more stabilized cardiovascular body activity, decreased blood pressure and cholesterol.
Frequent kissers are also known to have less chances of developing stomach, bladder and blood infections.
While kissing, the body facilitates the release of certain natural antibiotics in the saliva. The saliva also contains a certain type of anesthetic that helps relieve pain.
Kissing helps relieve anxiety and helps your mind feel at ease. It helps the release of hormone oxytocin which is extremely efficient in calming the nerves and helping you feel peaceful.
And last, but not the least, kissing releases endorphins that are 200 times more powerful than the drug morphine!
Well, if you needed any more reasons to go ahead and start kissing your partner more passionately than ever, you have full 10 of them. Wishing you a happy and healthy kissing!
So the time’s has finally at hand when you might get that kiss from your special someone- a moment that you have been anxiously waiting for quite some time now. One thing that you are naturally going to concerned about is to not ruin the moment. The key to this is simple- being confident. And having things planned out in advance is going to go a long way too. Here are some more tips on how to kiss a girl without ruining the moment. Feel free to post your comments on how you fared on your first kiss-date and share your thoughts and experiences on this. For specific tips on kissing techniques and other “how-to-kiss” related articles, check out the various other links on the site.
Do not be afraid – Feel confident about yourself at all times, and half the battle is won already. Don’t think too much about ruining it, or worry about things like “What if she doesn’t…” or “What if I…”, instead, keep thinking about all the things that are going to go RIGHT!
Prepare yourself well, and you weed out most possibilities of ruining the moment. Get a rain-check done. Check up on what you are going to be dressed up in. Wear something casual, something that’s not too catchy (avoid any t-shirt with some raunchy slogan on it that might, in some way, turn off your date). Check your breath frequently (trust me, bad breath is the worst turn off for everyone). It helps if you avoid meals with strong odors such as those containing garlic or onions. Keep some fresh mints or mint flavored gums handy. Use a lip moisturizer, if possible (or else a quick lick of the lips will keep them sufficiently moist in most cases).
Take your time – when you actually meet up with your girl, don’t rush up things- make her feel secure, rather than scaring her. Show that you are really interested into her and pay attention with understanding nods and responses to whatever she says. Show her that you have her undivided attention. After a while, touch her arms lightly, or pat on her knees. Make her feel special. Avoid any sudden movements or loud noises, these can potentially scare her off. Try holding her hands after a while and let her reciprocate.
Wait for the right moment. Don’t just try and get all over her and smother her with kisses, not for the first time of course. Look deep into her eyes for signs of whether she is ready or not. If she tilts her face towards you, the time is right. If she tries o avoid, or back away, then you need to wait. While you look into her eyes, say something romantic, like how beautiful her eyes are and how you love gazing into them. Find an excuse to touch her face or hair or her chin and gradually increase these light physical contacts with her. If she responds by getting closer to you, or doesn’t try to push you away, then you are in luck. Make your first kiss a light peck on the cheek, the second one a light peck on the lips and the next time you kiss, make it longer and more passionate.
Be Creative – once you get started kissing start using your hands gently. Stroke her hair, hold her face, brush her ear, neck and jaw. You may also try wrapping your hands around her waist and running your hands down her spine gently. Don’t keep kissing in just the same manner or she might feel bored after some time. Try kissing her on the neck, forehead, jaw, cheeks and shoulders in between kissing her lips. Try nibbling on her ears occasionally.
A goodnight kiss can be a very romantic moment especially if you have been out on a date. Not only does it seal the date on a perfect note, it also builds a powerful bond between the two of you that can go a long way. Most young people end up thinking about that last kiss goodnight, long after they are tucked up in bed, wondering about the next one. If your date has turned out to be an exciting one with some sizzling chemistry up front between the two of you, it’s only natural to wonder at the end of it whether you should go for a kiss. You don’t have to let thoughts like, “Should I go for it”, “Is it the right time to kiss her”, or “It’s only the first date, is (s)he ready for the kiss?” weigh you down. And that’s because we are here to teach you every thing you need to know about how to kiss goodnight.
Here’s a fun video on handling a goodnight kiss. Watch it first and then proceed to the step by step instructions below so you never end up in an awkward position ever.
Get up close.
At the end of the date, think of something to get up close to your partner. It does two things for you- one, you are in a better position to read your partner’s body language, two, you place yourself in a good position for the kiss, should the moment arrive anytime. If your partner tries to back away, you know they are not ready for the kiss yet.
Read the body language.
Don’t try to rush into kissing your partner, you may only end up ruining the relationship for good. Try to gauge their mood by reading the body language. And you better be quick in assessing the situation since the window for the goodnight kiss doesn’t remain open for long. If you are dropping your partner off to the door, and they don’t let you get too close to the door, then it could be an indication that they are not looking forward to kiss, at least for that moment. If they are in a hurry to get the door open and get in, that’s even worse, and you are better off not taking any chances with the kiss at the moment. Some other red flags could be a nervous or edgy appearance about them, clamped lips or avoiding eye contact for the most part. Read them all as signs of a “no-way-you-are-going-to-kiss-me-tonight” and you are better off letting them be. In some cases there aren’t many obvious signs of either a refusal or an eagerness to kiss and you will have to do better. Rely on your instincts.
Create “that” moment.
If you feel the signs are right, you should try to create the “moment” where you get to kiss him/her. As mentioned above, the goodnight kiss opportunity presents itself only for a short time and you will have to act fast to grab it. A good technique is to create an awkward pause in the conversation. Studies have revealed that people are uncomfortable with sudden pauses in conversations. Use it as an opportunity for the kiss. Flash a smile and then move right in.
Maintain eye contact at all times.
In order to judge if (s)he is willing, maintain aye contacts with your partner at all times. If they return your gaze steadily, then you can take it as an opportunity to kiss them. On the other hand, if they are not too eager to maintain the eye contact, you might want to back off. In some cases, they might return your eye contact, only to break it off every now and then. This could be attributed to their nervousness and it’s a good chance they are thinking about the kiss as well. Make them fell comfortable, and try to create another moment.
Time to Kiss.
With all the above mentioned strategies in place, it’s time to move in for the kiss. Keep it simple at first, especially if it’s your first date and/or your first kiss. That means, no french kissing. Not now. Brush her lips lightly, linger on for a few moments, pucker your lips, giving them a light smooch and then move back. Make sure you keep you hands on her hips or on their neck. If your partner seems enthusiastic (you’ll know if he or she looks you in the eye and/or on your lips), you can move in for another, more involved, kiss. However, remain alert to his/her reactions and don’t ever try to assert yourself too much. Take in all the cues you can, and if all seems well, the two of you can kiss once more with a little more passion and, maybe, a little more tongue. Remember though, that it’s better to leave then “wanting” a little, rather than slobbering them up and leaving them feeling disgusted. That way you open up possibilities of another kiss on another day.
Note: If you happen to receive the cold shoulder instead, be dignified about it. Apologize briefly, but confidently, laugh it off a bit, and say your goodnight!
Some helpful tips on goodnight kiss
Before you initiate the kiss, it’s a good idea to kiss your girl’s hand or the forehead since girls find it cute. The kiss on the forehead can be a little risky, though, since some girls find it patronizing and dad-like. Kiss her lightly on the tip of the nose instead.
As you walk away, bend a bit and glance over your shoulder. If she liked it, chances are she will be watching you leave.
Text her something romantic like “Tonight was amazing” or “Looking forward to doing it again sometime” as you are leaving. Your partner is going to absolutely love it.
On the other hand, if you feel your partner’s not very enthusiastic about the whole proceeding, ask him/her if they are feeling okay. If the answer’s a “nothing” or if they explicitly say they need some time to think over it, don’t push it, just say your goodnight. A goodnight kiss should never be forced.
Some of the most common issues guys tend to face when looking forward to kissing their girls includes being able to judge if the girl is ready as well, and whether it is the right time. These apprehensions are discussed in detail in the article- How To Kiss a Girl.
On the other hand, there will be times when you would want to know how to kiss a girl quickly with no time to lose. Here are some tips that can help you get your kiss when time is available at premium.
Break the physical barrier first.
One of the biggest reasons why most guys don’t succeed in getting their girl to kiss is that they try to kiss them before even initiating a physical touch. Ok, you are in a hurry, but it’s better to be slightly late in getting there than not getting there at all.
Try and look for an opportunity to hold your girl’s hands, or hug her playfully, or even get an excuse to dance with her. This is the first step to getting your kiss.
Get up close and personal.
As the next step toward getting to kiss her, start speaking to her softly while getting closer to her. Notice her reactions- whether she begins to lean in as well or tries to back away. If she’s leaning in to you, she’s interested in you and your kiss is just around the corner.
Get the signals right.
This is something you can’t be taught, really. Some of it comes with experience, most of it comes naturally. When it’s time to kiss her, you can feel it in the air between the two of you. If something inside you says, “Should I kiss her now?”, then yes, you probably should! You may be wrong sometimes, but you can fine tune it over time.
Step it up slowly.
Do not go in for a full blown make-out style of a kiss right away. She might push you away. Instead, start out with just a little peck on the lips. Slowly increase the frequency and the durations of your kisses. See where things lead from there. Be sensitive to her feelings as well.
Keep it playful.
Don’t make it into a serious, heavy moment. Keep things simple and fun, since the more fun things are, the less logical they appear. Enjoy the moment without giving a lot of thought to the future.
The move from one ear to another.
This is a sure-shot manner of discerning if she is ready for a kiss. Whisper softly into her ear and then move to the other ear after some time. If she doesn’t back away, all’s clear- swoop in for the kiss.
Finally, use privacy.
As always, make sure you are in a private place with nothing to keep her mind away from the situation. Ideally, there should be no one around when you kiss so that she feels comfortable at all times.
Alright, so hopefully you now know how to make the best use of your available time and that you can employ some of these techniques toyours quickly out of the way. Finally, enjoy this nice video on some more kissing tips (yeah, they just don’t seem to get over):
Here are 10 interesting facts about kissing that you probably hadn’t heard of before. These facts are either scientifically proven or determined after some serious research. Why not tell some of these to your partner and even make it a game of testing if some of these techniques actually work or not? Who said, work can’t be fun after all!
1. There are tons of nerve endings in your lips (around a hundred times more than that in your fingertips!) that stimulate desire. That’s why smooching before, during, and after making out can be extremely arousing and satisfying. Source: Krista Bloom, PhD, author of The Ultimate Compatibility Quiz
2. Forty percent of men say that a really long, steamy kiss gets them immediately ready for making love. Source: Cosmo Poll, April 2009
3. Pay attention to those “See ya later” pecks. If your guy routinely only gives you a quick kiss on the cheek when saying good-bye, it could be that he’s guarded and doesn’t emote easily. If this is a more recent development, it’s a warning sign; he may be feeling ambivalent about the relationship. Source: Body language expert Tony Reiman
4. Instantly turn up the kissing intimacy by closing the “A-frame”: a smooching stance in which you and your guy are in the middle of a smooch but your hips are a mile apart. By pressing your hips together, the degree of desire quickly rises. Source: William Cane, kissing coach and author of The Art of Kissing
5. The best way to kiss a guy’s ear? Kiss and…
…suck on his earlobe for a moment and then trace the outline of his ear with the tip of your tongue. (Bonus points if you whisper something naughty to him.)
Source: Ava Cadell, PhD
6. Men initiate open-mouth kissing to transfer libido-boosting testosterone to their partner. So when he’s getting a little more aggressive, it’s not just about his desire — he wants you to be a bit more amorous too. Source: Study by the University at Albany
7. Men are more than twice as likely to make love with a bad kisser than are women. Source: eHarmony.com, “What Men and Women Want in a Kiss
8. When coy kisses aren’t going to cut it here’s why you should let loose: Passionate kisses elevate your blood pressure and cause your heart to beat faster, getting you more excited, and making it easier for you to reach orgasm. Source: Ava Cadell, PhD
9. Fifty-four percent of women between the ages of 18 and 24 say they’ve kissed another girl. That number drops to 43 percent for those between 25 and 34. Source: Cosmo Poll, December 2008
10. During the Middle Ages, people signed legal contracts by making an “X” on the document and then kissing it to pledge their honor. That’s how XX became shorthand for a smooch. Source: Kissing: The Complete Guide by Tamar Schreibman
Alright, so you just found the guy who’s exactly your type and you would so love to kiss him. Here are some tips to keep in mind as you prepare to kiss him. Follow our step by step guide on how to kiss a boy for the first time and you will be a pro at kissing any guy, anytime you like.
1. Fresh Breath. That’s the most important part. Keep your breath fresh since bad breath is a big turn off, and he may never want to kiss you again. Keep a pack of lifesavors or mints with you at all times and make sure to brush and mouthwash whenever you plan on meeting him.
2. Follow the signals. You have to be sure that he is ready to kiss if you plan on making the first move. Look him in his eyes and then when your gazes are locked in, look at his lips and then back again. If he follows suite and looks at your lips as well, then you know he is ready as well. If he doesn’t reciprocate as well, then it’s best to give it some more time.
3. Break the touch barrier. Try initiate touching by holding his hands or touching his face and hair. This will make him feel wanted.
4. Time it up. Once you start kissing for the first time, go for a gentle open lip kiss, with lips slightly parted. Don’t go for a French kiss right away and do not make it last too long for the first time. 5 seconds to start off, is good. You can make it longer subsequently, and not to mention, more passionate.
5. Position your hands properly. As you kiss, put your hands on his hips, or on his neck or face. If he puts his hands on your waist or around your back as well, then it’s a sure sign that he likes you too.
6. Choose a proper location. Your first kiss should be someplace private with no interference from anyone or anything. Don’t do it in public or in front of friends where your minds may not be solely on the kiss itself making it not-so-fun.
7. Keep your lips moist. Dry lips grinding together not very likeable. You can wear a light lip balm (try to use something without any flavor as he may not like it). Lip-balms or lipsticks should be avoided especially when you are anticipating your first kiss. You could even lick your lips lightly (don’t over do it) to keep them moist, as well as give him the indication that you are ready for a kiss!
The first kiss is always the most special of your kisses, and needless to say, rather scary! You may not be prepared for it when it comes your way, and you absolutely can’t afford to mess it up– you never get a second chance for your first kiss. However, since you are reading this, chance are you will be ready when it happens. Here are some tips that should make your first kiss worth it.
The first rule- Don’t try and hasten it up. It’s very easy to just blow it all up if you try to kiss your partner a bit too soon. So, how do you know what is a right time to initiate the first kiss without worrying if it’s still too soon? All I can say is, be patient and you will know when THAT moment arrives. Just make sure you are not rushing into the moment. Take your time building up for the moment, instead. Hold hands, talk to the other person, and make him/her comfortable before going for it. Here are a couple good reasons why trying to kiss too soon may prove to be a disaster:
You don’t want the other person to wonder if it’s the kiss that you are more interested in.
You don’t want your first kiss to be the fill it, shut it, and forget it kind.
Once again, coming back to the question of when do you know it’s the right time. Well, with any luck, your instincts will tell you when to. Speaking from experience, if your partner warmly reciprocates your physical gestures like holding hands and snuggling up close then it’s a good time to venture and go for that first kiss. Don’t take this literally though- don’t kiss him/her right after you hold hands for the first time! Try to feel the tension build up between the two of you. The more it builds up, the more rewarding that first kiss of love gets.
On the other hand, taking forever to kiss is another way you can mess it all up. Yes, that’s right. You don’t want to miss too many opportunities and allow your partner to think if you are even interested. It’s better to let them wonder WHEN you are going to make the move and not IF you are going to make the move. You should let your partner know that it’s you who is in control of the situation via confident moves.
Another thing to keep in mind is don’t talk about it before you actually do it. That’s a sure shot party spoiler. A couple of hints is fine, just don’t kill the romance by talking endlessly about it even before it has happened. Keeping the suspense up is yet another ingredient of a great first kiss.
And one last thing- don’t ever assume that taking a girl (or in a rare instance, a guy) out to dinner means that he/she owes you a kiss at the end of it. Affection is not to be bought in such a fashion. People (and especially girls) can see right through that and the affair could potentially end even before you allowed it a chance to begin. Remember, you don’t have to arrange for an orchestrated event or a fancy romantic cruise date in order to get your first kiss. Just be yourself, remain calm and confident, and just kiss them when THAT moment arrives spontaneously. Good luck with your first kiss. And when you get it, do write up a kiss poem to remember it by!