How To French Kiss – Step By Step Video
The French kiss is, without doubt, among the most popular types of kissing. You get to see it almost everywhere- in the movies and in real life behind the trees in the community parks and even on those secluded stretches of the street. The French kiss has come about as a wonderful gesture of romantic, passionate affection. Regardless of whether you live in France, Paris, Texas or New Delhi, you should be a master of French kissing without an embarrassing faux pas! Once you are through with this article, you may be interested in learning how to French kiss your girlfriend
Let’s begin with a fun video that demonstrates most of the do’s and don’ts of French Kissing. Once you are through with the video, you should read the step-by-step french kissing guide that follows immediately after for a better understanding of the strategies involved.
How to French Kiss Step By Step:
Keep your lips moist. Dry lips just won’t move well together leading to a less than pleasant experience. All you need to do is flick your tongue over your lips lightly before proceeding for the kiss. Don’t overdo it though, by licking your lips all the time- that won’t cut a very pleasant picture. Using a light lip balm is a good idea as you can never tell if a kiss is around the corner.
Brush your lips together, ever so slightly. Keep your lips parted a bit and wrap it around your partner’s lower or upper lip and brush it around in a gentle fashion. That’s the beginning of a French kiss and feels very pleasant. Take in the moment slowly.
Keep you face at an angle. It’s not possible to kiss deeply or smoothly if your mouths happen to meet dead-on as your noses will in the way. To get into a perfect position for a deep French Kiss, tilt your heads sideways (in opposite directions!).
Keep your eyes closed. As you prepare for the kiss, do look intently into your partner’s eyes, but the moment your lips meet, your eyes should close slowly. Nothing is worse than you partner opening his/her eyes momentarily and seeing you staring into theirs with cross-eyes! It can totally put them off. Besides, keeping your eyes open might give the other an impression that you may not be enjoying the kiss.
The initial kiss should be gentle and soft with close mouths. Yes, yes, we know the French Kiss is meant to be an open mouthed kiss. It’s the initial phase we are talking about, the build-up to it. Do not lunge at your partner with your mouth wide open like you were planning on eating them up. Instead, you start with your mouths closed and slowly open them apart as you proceed until you reach that full bloodied open mouth stage of kissing.
Be spontaneous and awake to the moment. A French Kiss happens with the consent and active participation of both the partners. You should understand when the other person is ready to go into that passionate stage of French Kissing. Don’t stop and ask them midway if it’s OK to shove your tongue into his/her mouth. Open your lips apart slowly during the kiss such that one of your lips is wrapped around your partner’s lips and vice versa. Keep up this process of slowly locking your lips around one of your partner’s lips with gentle brushing and test if your partner is ready to go for the next stage with letting your tongue run brush against your partner’s lips very gently. This will send the indication to your partner that you are looking for a French kiss. If they respond similarly, you are good to go. But if they don’t, or worse, pull away, then your French Kiss needs to wait for some more time until you are both ready.
Explore some more. If your partner reciprocates to your open mouth kiss, then it’s time to venture further. Slowly and gently open your mouth some more and push your tongue a little further into your partner’s mouth. The tongue is a very sensitive part of the mouth and the mere act of touching your tongues together is a very pleasant feeling. Don’t try to stick your tongue as far up your partner’s mouth as possible. That is a BIG turn-off. Just play around with your tongues lightly. Tease him/her and let your partner come get it if they need it.
Go Slow. Remember, French kissing is an art. Passionate and wild kisses are exciting but you need time to build up to it. To really make a French Kiss enjoyable, take time to explore each others mouth and tongues first.
Don’t forget to breathe. If are new to French Kissing, it’s very common and easy to forget to take in air. You don’t want to end it abruptly just because you forget to breathe. Gasping and gulping for breath is going to leave a bad taste in your partner’s mouth, not to mention the fact that it’s totally unromantic. Remember to take in small breathes through your nose as you kiss. Sometimes breathing lightly through the mouths is a good idea too, since sharing breaths can seem romantic as well (though not everyone may like it, be careful).
Vary your kisses by mixing it up. Kisses should be like snowflakes, all are beautiful but each one is unique. Once you have been French Kissing for a while, it’s tempting to add some variety. Try do something new each time like kissing deeper sometimes, or paying more attention to their lips rather than the tongue at some others. Vary the duration as well by making your kisses last longer or shorter. Keep your partner guessing for what’s in store the next time.
Position your hands. It’s very important to use your hands correctly, especially if the two of you are French Kissing for the first time. Don’t get too aggressive with your hands though, but it’s not cool to just let them hang by your sides, doing nothing. As a rule of thumb, keep your hands on your partner’s hips as you start the kiss and then slowly move them around their back and on to your face and hair. It shows you are tender and that you are comfortable with your partner. You can gently run your hands through your partner’s hair as you kiss or caress their shoulders. As you go further, caress their cheek or neck and eventually wrap them around in a pleasant embrace.
Read your partner’s body language. Although there are “wrong” ways to kiss, there is no “right” way or one way to kiss. Everyone kisses differently and most people tend to like different things in a kiss. What makes a good kisser is his/her ability to read the partner’s body language well. If your partner seems to want to end the kiss by not being very responsive or trying to pull away, you should know that it’s time to slow down. Perfect kisses need both of you to participate full on. Be alert to signs and clues from your partner at all times and think of their needs too, not just your own. Pay attention enough and you will know what it is that he/she likes more as you kiss. Allow your partner to kiss you back and let them have their own way as well. Play along with your partner. Look forward to the tell-tale signs of how much your partner is enjoying a particular kissing maneuver. If he/she sighs or starts to moan or begin to kiss you back with increased intensity, you know it’s all working well.
Create your own personal style. Mastering the art of Good French Kisses requires time and enough practice. You tend to get better as you kiss more. Keep yourself on the learning curve at all times and build your own inimitable style of kissing.
Speak to your partner about it. Don’t be shy about speaking about it with your partner. A lot of people find it difficult discussing such intimate things, but you have to understand that like all partnerships, open communication is important here as well. See the fun side of things and tell your partner what it is about the kiss that you like so much. On the other hand, if you don’t like something, let them know, although in a gentle and indirect manner, if possible.
It’s all about showing love. Even if a kiss goes wrong, remember, the whole point of kissing is to show your love and affection. A Kiss gone wrong is still your private moment together and you can laugh about it sometime. Remember to make it fun.
How To French Kiss – Useful Tips:
- Freshen your breath. You never want to have bad breath when you are about to kiss someone, whether the kiss is a French kiss or not. Because your mouth will be open in a French kiss, fresh breath is especially important. Practice good dental hygiene. Always have breath mints or mint-flavored gum if you think there is even so much as a hint of a chance you might kiss. Avoid foods that leave an unpleasant aftertaste or residue, particularly garlic, coffee, onions, milk, and corn.
- Teeth are a sensitive subject. You definitely do not want to bump teeth with each other. It is not only awkward, but can hurt. It might inevitably happen at times, so do not worry when it does. You may want to try rubbing the backs or fronts of the teeth of the other person with your tongue. This can create a ticklish feeling that might enhance your kiss. Not everyone enjoys having someone’s tongue rubbing on their teeth, and many do not like to touch teeth with their tongue.
- Not everybody likes to be kissed the same way, so while your former partner might have enjoyed one method of kissing, your new love might not. You need to learn to read signals and adapt to a style that’s comfortable for each of you. This works in reverse, too. Just because someone doesn’t kiss you like you are used to does not mean they are a bad kisser. As long as you are comfortable with the kiss, try to be open-minded, as you just might like the new style.
- Be an active partner. If someone is French kissing you and you want them to do so, do not just sit there but get into the kiss. Reciprocate their actions, and alternate taking the lead on the movements of your tongues and lips. If you are uncomfortable with any part of the kiss, do not be afraid to pull away or gently close your lips. This will give your partner the hint.
- There are no rules for how long you should hold a kiss. If you feel uncomfortable at any time, break the kiss; otherwise, just enjoy it until one or both of you slowly pull apart, usually together. It is extremely romantic to lightly suck your partner’s upper or bottom lip as you part. You might find yourselves returning to kissing, after each of you takes a breath.
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What not to do when French Kissing:
- To some people a hard tongue is a turn-off. Keep tongue and lips soft and supple. Think of the pressure used to lick a soft service ice cream cone, no probing with a stiff tongue unless the other enjoys it.
- You can still French kiss if one or both of you has braces, but you should be careful to prevent the braces from touching each other. Also avoid touching the braces with your tongue (you might accidentally cut it). Check out How to Kiss with Braces.
- Excessive saliva can build up during a French kiss, and that can interfere with the romantic moment. Swallow periodically without breaking the kiss. If you have trouble doing that, do not be afraid to pull away for a moment. Smiling when you pull away can reassure your partner that you’re just taking a small break, not rejecting their affection.
- Be aware that French kissing may transmit infectious diseases such as herpes and infectious mononucleosis (also known as mono).
- If you ever feel uncomfortable or do not want to move forward with any move your partner is attempting, pull away and let your partner know that you want to stop. Be firm. It’s okay to say no.
So, there you go. W3e have covered almost everything there is about French kissing. Follow our advice and you will be a master of French Kissing in no time. But hey, that’s not all. You should definitely watch the following beautiful video that shows the techniques mentioned above and every single step involved on screen. Nothing gets easier than that. Watch the video and you will learn many other kissing manouevers that will enthrall your partner no end.
How To French Kiss – Step by Step Video.